The Reality of Neuroses November 25, 2014
Many people can relate to feeling neurotic from time to time. Some experience it only in certain phobic type situations while others can experience true pervasiveness. Neuroticism is the tendency to experience negative emotions, feel threatened and have intense reactivity to what most would consider minor situations, and often it can take a longer time to regulate emotions. This type of emotional instability can become quite a burden and diminish one’s ability to think clearly, make decisions, and cope effectively with stress. When people dwell in these negative emotional states they tend to attract more cause and effect relationships into their experience. This validates their worries, beliefs, and expectations, fueling a spiraling sense of hopelessness. Amazingly, neuroses is a stunning example of living consciously. Though fueled and originated by the unconscious, neuroses displays a person’s ability to experience just how powerful their mind, thoughts, feelings, and emotions are—albeit heading in the wrong direction.
There is a lot of energy that is concentrated and focused upon by those who experience neuroses. The energy focused upon displays how we all create our own reality and experiences. By placing attention upon our fears, they tend to come true for us. Maybe not to the extreme but definitely enough to cause concern. Sometimes the effect is immediate and sometimes delayed but always in accordance with our beliefs and expectations. Assume the worst and find negativity. Assume the best and find positivity. Sounds simple enough and it is that simple. Though it takes creativity and practice to counter and reframe our negative assumptions, beliefs, and expectations. It takes discipline in identifying and redirecting when we are creating that which is not to our preference. It requires choosing to look for the learning in each situation. To find the answer of how to align with what we want for ourselves which for the neurotic would most likely be freedom from neuroses.
Some folks believe that if they do not worry the world will fall apart. I know by past experience and thought my world would crumble if I did not spend time worrying. In fact, I can recall being worried about something and then forgetting about it, later trying very hard to remember what I was worrying about in order to “catch back up” with my regime. Another example that stands out in my mind, one day in my early 20’s while driving somewhere I did not want to go, in the midst of anxious, neurotic, and worriesome thoughts, I began to notice this connection between my experience of reality and my internal experience. In the heat of negative thinking and beginning to develop a headache for it, one of my front tires blew out, causing a delay. Though more frustrating…it seemed symbolic that it was a front tire that blew, steering me away from where I did not want to go, due to my neuroses for where I was going. This was not the first experience nor has it been the last. I recognized that my internal resistance, fear, and negative thinking was manifesting in my experience. As a result, I decided to pick up some self-help books in attempts to learn more and hopefully help myself. I quickly learned and was validated in my experiences that this was indeed true, I can influence my experience of reality by my thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and expectations. There is now, more than ever, more research and knowledge about our reality and its connection to an energetic system. Have you ever heard of Quantum Physics?
Ask yourself a couple of questions… When you feel good, what does your energy feel like? Does it feel light, airy, and even magnetic? When you feel bad, what does your energy feel like? Perhaps dark, heavy, maybe repelling or repulsive? We tend to personalize our experiences of reality because we influence its creation by what we are placing our energetic focus on at any given moment. From a mental health perspective learning new skills to change our energetic focus is invaluable. However, reading self-help books or books about Quantum Physics alone does not necessarily equate to the self-supportive change that is needed. When considering the differing experiences that have brought us to our current day circumstances and mental health states, professional skills need be applied in part due to the myriad of unconscious thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and expectations that have been buried from our past experiences of hurt or pain. For some, this may be an organic issue or diagnosis but it does not change the fact that skills can be learned and practiced to combat the energetic focus one afflicted may be unconsciously holding. Reality itself is completely impartial with what it is we entertain in our minds and hearts. Reality depends upon us to create what we want by virtue of our projection. We just need to tweak and tighten those projections to experience a more stable and preferred reality.0