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Sitting in YOURself April 20, 2015

We tend to live outside of ourselves. We spend a lot of our time either projected behind ourselves in the past or in front of ourselves into the future. Picture that in your mind for a moment… You are walking in a park with a trailing transparent vision of yourself behind you. This vision of yourself follows you, it might hold you captive to your past, it might judge you, or criticize you. Now picture walking in that same park as you…

How to apply the safety to your Emotional Triggers March 19, 2015

Centering Awareness on the mind and body Grounding through Relaxation or Mindfulness Flip the switch to more Helpful Self-Talk Reconciling the trigger with Communication   Who doesn’t have emotional triggers? I know I get bent out of shape when someone on the freeway doesn’t let me in and when someone is driving too slow and when I feel disrespected or undervalued. Awareness of our emotional triggers can be helpful in order to gain an increased internal locus of control and…

From False Ego to Authentic Self March 11, 2015

Many of us live by rule of our false egos. In order to fit in with our families, social groups, and institutions we learn to wear a mask as we grow and develop. For some, the mask is never taken off to allow us to get to know who we truly are and how we truly want to be; to transform into our authentic selves. We hustle and bustle about with life’s daily challenges, too busy to stop and take…

4 Steps to Mental Flexibility February 19, 2015

A hallmark of good mental health is mental flexibility. Mental flexibility is being able to roll with the punches, not being too rigid in our opinions of the way things ought to be or how others should act allows for less emotional reactivity, less upset feelings, and less judgment of ourselves, our behaviors, and others. Being too rigid is also known as being aggressive, opinionated, or pushy. On the flip side, too much mental flexibility can be problematic as well. Being…

Blame Looks Backwards, Responsibility Looks Forwards February 10, 2015

After an argument or disagreement it helps to remember that blame is looking backwards while responsibility is looking forwards. To get over the argument and get back on solid ground it takes two people to have the courage to move away from blame; to claim responsibility for their actions and emotional reactions. It’s at the heart of healthy communication to be able to identify and state your feelings, needs, wants, and desires respectfully and to hear the other person in…

For the Sake of Joy January 21, 2015

Wouldn’t it be phenomenal if we could all experience some joy daily? I mean real joy… The kind of joy that lights up and creates momentum throughout your entire day; maybe even brings a touch of silliness to your mood. According to dictionary.com one definition of joy is: a source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated. This definition implies external factors influencing internal factors. Could it be possible that we could feel…

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