Oneness and Independent Individuality in Tandem June 3, 2015
Have you ever heard of the concept of oneness? From a molecular and spiritual perspective, oneness can be understood as: we are all made of the same stuff with the same basic needs, wants, and desires. We crave connection with other people and we tend to benefit from some of our relationships in attempts to sustain our lives and happiness. The concept of oneness helps to recognize that we are all connected, as is every living being or thing, including our planet. Most of us were taught to focus more on a contrasting concept known as independence along with our “specialness” and uniqueness as individuals. Independence can be defined as freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others. From a mental and physical perspective, the concept of independence along with our uniqueness as individuals can create feelings of separateness or competition. Though it is also true that we benefit from our autonomy, our individual talents, and even our individual shortcomings. A more complete, balanced and holistic way to be may be gained by living from oneness and independent individuality in tandem.
When we merge these two concepts of Oneness and Independence, we can hold a deeper knowing and trust between existence and ourselves while sharing our lives with others from our centered and truly independent individualities. The Ancient Greek aphorism “know thyself” carries a lot of weight in this merging of concepts. Knowing ones values, strengths, and limitations is key to navigating life with greater ease. When we don’t know ourselves we feel lost and hold on to people (or things) from a place of neediness rather than a place of sharing. When we are more solidly focused on separateness we can become clingy and smothering within the relationships we find helpful. We can feel anxious, depressed, easily hurt, confused, and complain to others in attempts to gain validation of our experiences. Likewise when we are absent of a natural or spiritual connection we can feel alone and disconnected, furthering feelings of separateness.
We also tend to focus on what’s wrong with us or within our relationships as opposed to what’s right. In the same vein we can fall prey to what someone else’s is doing to us rather than reflecting upon our role in the maintenance of problems. Again, knowing ourselves is key here. Feeling complete in and of ourselves, as well as connected and reciprocated within our relationships is the ideal goal. By merging our oneness and independent individuality we can feel more interconnected with others we share our lives with and with life in general. If you feel isolated and separated from others or would like more reciprocity in your relationships, contact me to explore your values, strengths, and limitations in order to bring more interconnectedness and completeness into your own sense of oneness and independent individuality.0