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Oneness and Independent Individuality in Tandem June 3, 2015

Have you ever heard of the concept of oneness? From a molecular and spiritual perspective, oneness can be understood as: we are all made of the same stuff with the same basic needs, wants, and desires. We crave connection with other people and we tend to benefit from some of our relationships in attempts to sustain our lives and happiness. The concept of oneness helps to recognize that we are all connected, as is every living being or thing, including…

Limitations as Strengths May 18, 2015

When people go about thinking and labeling their limitations they often begin by considering them from a place of self-judgment with negative feelings attached to them. What if I told you that our limitations can actually be our new strengths? Sounds crazy but when one identifies and accepts their limitations it can allow a shift to occur. You see with acceptance comes empowerment to do something differently. What once may have felt difficult suddenly becomes a window of opportunity. Learning…

Stop the stigma – we all can improve our mental health hygiene May 6, 2015

We as a society have advanced in many ways and in many fields, from new technologies to advances in the sciences, and improvements in medical and health care treatments…  Though in the mental health field, sometimes I feel that we are still in the dark ages due to the stigma that continues today. A stigma we need to rid ourselves of. Stigma defined is: a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person. The shear definition of…

Sitting in YOURself April 20, 2015

We tend to live outside of ourselves. We spend a lot of our time either projected behind ourselves in the past or in front of ourselves into the future. Picture that in your mind for a moment… You are walking in a park with a trailing transparent vision of yourself behind you. This vision of yourself follows you, it might hold you captive to your past, it might judge you, or criticize you. Now picture walking in that same park as you…

Naming Our Stories for Helpful Self-Talk April 7, 2015

The stories we live by in our minds can be helpful or unhelpful to our wellbeing. These stories may be based on reality but they also can exacerbate how we feel about our reality by what we are telling ourselves. The stories I am speaking of enlist and entail the self-critic, self-judgments, shaming, personalizing, shoulding, paranoia, negativity, worry, and internalization of what others do or don’t do. Identifying a personal, memorable, even humorous name for this story that encapsulates all…

Loving the Emotionally Unavailable March 25, 2015

Emotional unavailability in a relationship can be a sign of many things. Could mean a person needs some distance due to some other taxing concern or problem, could be that they’ve always been this way due to never being shown how or being too wounded to go there, could be that they are emotionally involved with someone else—might even be with someone you both know, could be that you too are emotionally unavailable or placing your emotional availability with someone…

How to apply the safety to your Emotional Triggers March 19, 2015

Centering Awareness on the mind and body Grounding through Relaxation or Mindfulness Flip the switch to more Helpful Self-Talk Reconciling the trigger with Communication   Who doesn’t have emotional triggers? I know I get bent out of shape when someone on the freeway doesn’t let me in and when someone is driving too slow and when I feel disrespected or undervalued. Awareness of our emotional triggers can be helpful in order to gain an increased internal locus of control and…

From False Ego to Authentic Self March 11, 2015

Many of us live by rule of our false egos. In order to fit in with our families, social groups, and institutions we learn to wear a mask as we grow and develop. For some, the mask is never taken off to allow us to get to know who we truly are and how we truly want to be; to transform into our authentic selves. We hustle and bustle about with life’s daily challenges, too busy to stop and take…

Misguided Self-Love March 5, 2015

What is self-love really? Let’s start by highlighting what it is not. Self-love is not egotistical nor narcissistic. It is not selfish or uncaring. Self-love is quite the opposite. Self-love is knowing our strengths, our limitations, our triggers, and how best to cope and care for ourselves among life’s challenges. Self-love is accepting ourselves and respectfully behaving or communicating in such a way as to honor our personal needs. All too common, and in a variety of ways, we tend…

The Importance of the Therapeutic Relationship February 24, 2015

The therapeutic relationship is the second most influential factor in predicting successful outcomes. The number one factor is the client’s willingness and readiness to seek support. Within the therapeutic relationship exists a working alliance where a client presents their concerns and behaviors to a therapist while the therapist holds the relationship safely. With this working alliance a client can learn to develop tolerance for frustration (even in this relationship), build trust, and maintain the relationship in the presence of possible ruptures….

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